How to Deal With Depression – Intro
According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, 9% of the men in the US have daily feelings of depression and anxiety! That is A LOT. About 147 million men live in the USA and 9% of that number is 13.219.650… MEN.
This is way too much for the USA. Think about it… the USA and other western countries have the highest living standards on the whole planet… so why is this number so damn gigantic? I know why it is that colossal and I know how to deal with depression.
Use the WC, get a drink, and make yourself comfortable because this is going to be really interesting, important, emotional and entertaining.
If you have an open mind and do what is wrote in this article then it will change your life forever… do you feel anxious now? There is no need to. I write this to help you and it is not my intention to harm you.
I felt no anxiety to do this because I was already dead inside and death was not an option anymore because I couldn’t do it. And doing the following was surely not as scary as death.
Welcome to the “How to deal with depression” comprehensive guide. Do everything inside this article and you will get my respect because the following things are very scary for normal people.
But probably not for you because you already experienced depression. You already looked into the depths of your soul and you found out that it’s dead or hurting.
This reminds me of a man looking for revenge. The consuming fire inside him propels him forward to get what he wants – without any or much anxiety.
You are this man with one exception – you will use that soul destroying fire to start your journey into the unknown. Like a rocket launching into space.
The rocket into the unknown, it’s purpose is to find a second planet for humanity or with other words your exciting and hard new life.
Fasten your seatbelt, make yourself comfortable, and enjoy the best “how to deal with depression” guide for men on the internet!
Back to the primitive
To understand why most western men today suffer from male depression and how you can use the how to deal with depression guide we have to go back in time. We have to talk about the stone age were men were hunters and women took care of the children. The basics.
Imagine that you are a neanderthal and that you are the alpha of this group or another male neanderthal. It’s a small group of 12 neanderthals and everyone in this group has a job or otherwise, the group will die.
They had a purpose, a family, regular sex, discipline, and they had to get better to improve their odds of surviving. Being careless would result in the death of someone in the group or even the whole group. (The fundamentals to live a balanced life)
Neanderthals were skilled hunters because they had to eat a lot of meat to get proteins and fat which are essential for energy and survival. Otherwise, they would die, hunting is the equivalent of hustling for money nowadays.
If they were unskilled hunters, weak (lack of strength – mentally and physically), or careless they would die.
You don’t die nowadays because others protect and care for you – you don’t need mental or physical strength anymore to survive – the result is that these essential things for men are just ignored and vilified “violence and aggression are toxic masculinity”. The male suicide rate increases…
Then the females would leave the rest to search for another group of neanderthals because they need fathers and alpha males to provide for the family, otherwise, they are going to die too.
Imagine the kids growing up without a father -> they would die.In our depressed society “The lost boys” didn’t even know their father or their father got feminized. I grew up without a father.
The group trusted their alpha neanderthal like that alpha believed in himself – today we call this confidence and courage.
Just look at this video, in the beginning, he talks like your average joe, then, see how he changes. He takes the risks and fights (for a better life), just like you will hopefully today after reading this article… and if you go the distance you will live a better life too!
Why Men in the West?
Today’s food that is literally cancerous, high in estrogens, full of chemicals, antibiotics and other stuff that no one wants inside their body. The testosterone levels in the west have sunken lower than ever before.
And that is no wonder when you think about the food that we eat on a daily basis. Here are some of the symptoms of low testosterone levels:
The neanderthals had to survive and they needed every protein and fat source that they could get their hands on.
We also have to learn almost everything by ourselves because no one told us how to live a fulfilling life as a man. And what happens when no one tells you how to do it? We become depressed “the lost boys”.
Never ever in recorded history did we have to learn how to live our life like a mature man by ourselves.
So how can you live a happy life again and stop being depressed? First, you will have to stop thinking that depression is a part of you because it will make you think that you are not responsible for your depression.
Depression is just a feeling, a reaction to our current life circumstances (that you can change).
Our circumstances and decisions made us depressed, but it’s in our hands to change our lives and that’s why you are responsible for it my friend. You are still alive, and I have seen men without legs making out of with hot girls – you can do that too if you put the work in.
It’s time to talk about the solution of this how to deal with depression guide.
The 7 essentials are a method consisting of 7 principles that you have to do every day in order to ignite your masculinity and to cure your own depression.
It works exceptionally well with depressed men because it forces them to be what they want to be – Men, Without shame. Just read what I wrote about the neanderthals again. If they were shamed for being men and ostracized they wouldn’t be able to hunt, to care for their families, to raise strong sons and in the end, they would die, because they never learned to be a man.
If they were shamed for being men and ostracized they wouldn’t be able to hunt, to care for their families, to raise strong sons and in the end, they would die, because they never learned to be a man.
Sure you don’t need to hunt nowadays but you have to struggle in other ways and if you don’t grab your balls and say “fuck em” you will die mentally (depression). People will abuse you, women will walk all over you, etc.
If you don’t raise a strong son he will become depressed too. And if you can not care for your family you will never create one or be able to care for one.
But hell, the worst thing is – that you will hate yourself because you never allowed yourself to be who you want to be – to tell your bullies to go to hell – to ask that hot Asian girl out for a ride in your Mustang (that you were able to buy because you have built your own business) and so many other things.
Masculinity is the key to cure male depression.
I have invented this method – I was depressed for 12 years with no sign of ever getting rid of it. They said I had a “clinical depression”. I took all kinds of SSRI’s that didn’t fix my problems. I was in the psychiatry for 3 months and I got to know a lot of depressed people in my life.
I reflected upon my life, I studied other depressed people and I have spent 2 years in my living room to figure out how to cure male depression, and it works.
I don’t even need to proof it because if you pay attention you will see it in your own life. Just think or look at the man that you consider masculine (do they look sad?) no they don’t. Could you imagine Arnold Schwarzenegger (affiliate link) or Rambo crying? I can’t!
Or people that have goals or try to become rich. They are often very poor or depressed. But when they start with their journey their depression disappears despite the tough circumstances.
I want you to do the following: The next time someone oversteps your personal boundaries I want you to tell them to go to hell. You may get into your first fist fight and it will be absolutely worth it. Suddenly you walk with your eyes forward and your testicles an inch larger.
I also know that it works because I have studied depressed people (I spent half of my life with them, and I read about depression every day) and I saw things that they don’t have but masculine men do.
They all lost their purpose (whatever it was)! They lost their wives, their children, their job, one of their body parts or their testicles were cut off, they have lost all their money, etc. And they were still smiling by the end of the day. And you can do that too!
The Solution – 1. Purpose
Create your own purpose. Leave a mark on this earth, you don’t want to die with regrets because you only lived to make other people happy. What about yourself my friend?! It is your duty to make yourself happy! Your brain demands it! Your boss, your wife or children do not come first – you come first.
You can not take care of little Rambo if you are so stuck in your thoughts that you drive against a wall.
With purpose, depression will become your past. Because every day you wake up for your mission. When you work on your own purpose you will start to believe that you can achieve it.
You can lose your home and have no food. You will get your food and home back just to work on your purpose again. It is that strong. You will think of your purpose after you had sex. After you wake up. While you sleep and while sitting on the toilet.
Having a purpose will fulfill you. Here are some purposes:
-Becoming financially independent
-Becoming a boxing champion
-Becoming the most aesthetic person in your town
-Building and managing your own political party
-Helping animals in need
-Traveling the world to see where you want to live
This video is a scene from the movie rush (affiliate link) and it is about the rivalry between Niki Lauda and James Hunt. Niki Lauda burned alive and almost died. He will wear the scars of this accident until the day he dies.
And he still managed to win the world cup some years later. Imagine going through a trauma where you almost die and you return later just to win it all. That is the power of purpose.
Niki Lauda is a bigger inspiration to me than anyone else because of that single fact. I highly recommend that movie (even to people who don’t like F1). This movie is a call to action.
The Solution – 2. Fun
Life is game. So have fun, for at least 2 hours per day. My way to have fun is to lift weights. Otherwise, I just work on my purpose – aka mission – the entire time. I think about my business more than I think about sex (no joke).
I am obsessed with it and that is good because the people that are obsessed with what they do will become the pioneers and grandmasters of tomorrow.
But what to do when you are so depressed that having fun feels like a useless activity? Feel good hormones, my friend. Whatever floats your boat… Don’t tell this anyone but if snorting cocaine prevents you from killing yourself – go for it.
Whatever it takes. Get outside and do something you would never dare back then because you were too scared and you had a reputation to lose (which you don’t care about anymore). Experience life. Have sex with a prostitute – join the army – snort cocaine – get into a fistfight – sign up at that next MMA gym around the corner.
You don’t care anyway. I know I didn’t when I was depressed. It will be a time that you will never forget. Do you know breaking bad? The famous TV show? No? It is about a man that was diagnosed with cancer.
He knew that he will die and then decided to cook and sell meth. He was not afraid anymore and he didn’t care. Do whatever you want as long as you don’t hurt other people. That is the golden rule: Don’t hurt other people doing what you want.
I just started a business because it can’t be worse than depression anyway. You are doing your mental time or you have done it – the good thing about it? You are tougher and wiser than before. Be proud of yourself man!
Punch your pillow, unleash all that anger and scream “I WILL NOT SURRENDER!” till you can’t do it no more.
“Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they “arrive”. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves“. -Napoleon Hill
And that is the quote from the infamous book “Think and grow rich”. Self-made millionaires are one of the toughest sons of bitches and most of them have one thing in common: they reached rock bottom before. Let that sink in.
Depression can be that trigger that will introduce you to your other self – use this guide and you will not recognize yourself anymore…
The Solution – 3. Philosophy
You will have to understand the world around you to understand yourself better – I recommend that you search for the truth. A good place to find that is the internet.
You have to know the answers. The red pill on Reddit is a good place to start because they are talking about society without the politically correct filter that prevents people from digging far enough.
You also have to develop critical thinking, don’t just take one side – see both sides. You must develop mental strength through going out of your comfort zone (which will be never easier to leave because depression gives you a certain “I don’t give a fuck” feeling.
You got a crush on that super hot and young Asian girl in that grocery store next to your house but never dared to talk to her? Best time is now, can’t get worse anyway. (Yes I love Asian girls)
Never treat others like you do not want yourself to be treated. Be loyal to people that are loyal to you. Help people that help you. And always strive to become better.
You will also start to understand that society follows certain patterns till it destroys itself and has to start all over again (strong men create a safe civilization that will destroy itself through corruption and the disregard of values) -> Rome is a good example.
Understand the world and you will understand yourself.
The Solution – 4. Strength
Ever seen a big man crying? I didn’t. Not even in movies. I have never seen a big man crying.
They don’t because they did their time battling themselves in the gym while dealing with life like everyone else. They are tougher because they are training their bodies and their minds.
People want to be around strong people like monkeys are always around the alpha monkey. You can fight back. People make way for you. You walk with your eyes forward. “What is the point of being on this earth if you are going to be like everyone else?” – Arnold Schwarzenegger
This is just one aspect of strength. The other one is mental strength. You accept that reality is cruel and wants to destroy you every chance it gets.
Make getting mentally strong a habit -> Laugh when people nag or challenge you. Sign up at your local hardcore gym and push through your limits, through your comfort zone.
Always get stronger than you currently are. That is an essential to get rid of depression.
The Solution – 5. Self-Reliance
Strength and independence (freedom) are masculine traits. You will have to become strong and independent and no one can hurt you. Self-reliance is the key to freedom.
You can easily set boundaries and appropriate consequences when you are completely self-reliant because you don’t need people to feel complete and happy!
How to become strong & independent? You build your own business or find other ways to earn money to support yourself. There is a reason they call a certain amount of money “fuck you money” because, with it, you can always quit.
You won’t need someone else ever again when you come out on the other side… When you are able to live alone, know how to take care of yourself, when you got “fuck you money”, it will be hard for the devil called “depression” to hurt you.
The Solution – 6. Self-Improvement
How can one be depressed and at the same time be better than ever before? Become better every day and beat depression through mastery and the use of this guide.
Improve everything. Your mental and physical strength in the gym, your knowledge with books, talk to strangers to get good at socializing, learn every day. This video solidifies that “go all the way“
Afraid of burning out for your business? Still, do it. Afraid of fainting while working out? Still, do it. Afraid of talking to that woman? Do it, do it, do it.
Work on becoming better every day and you will believe in yourself. Your confidence will skyrocket and you will start to love yourself. “It is better to burn out than to fade away” – Kurt Cobain
The Solution – 7. Repeat
Here is what you have to do on a daily basis or otherwise you will continue to suffer from depression. Remember that depression is a lack of masculinity. You will have to do the following things to rid yourself of depression:
1. Create/Work on your purpose
2. Have fun for at least 2 hours per day
3. Learn or improve a valuable skill (for example copywriting)
4. Lift weights at least 3x per week
5. Laugh about insults and insult them back (laugh while doing that!)
6. Do not show sad or weak emotions to anyone.
7. Become independent through your activities and knowledge
8. Improve yourself, read books, improve your style, learn to fight
9. If you have negative thoughts you must refocus on this list. Maybe 100 times per hour.
10. Repeat everything
11. Enjoy the process of becoming a successful, healthy and wealthy free man
How to Deal With Loneliness and Toxic Friends
You will not be lonely when you do everything from this list. You might feel lonely in the beginning, but the longer you follow this list, the less you will feel lonely.
I haven’t felt lonely in 2 years. How to deal with toxic friends? You don’t. Ignore their calls or just tell them that you don’t want to hang out with them anymore.
If they ask you why you just tell them that you have goals and that you guys are not on the same page anymore. This might frighten you, but it is necessary to increase your confidence and well-being.
Free Downloads That Help to Fight Depression
1. Sleep Tracker to improve your mental health
2. The journey to freedom – A To-Do-List, a smart goal planner (masterplan), a network/energy management/project management tab, a daily self-improvement tab + a tab for quotes and more!
3. From Skinny to Buff – An Article with a free 4 split workout routine!
Follow the 7 essentials for 30 days and you will live a depression free life. I Guarantee it. Purpose alone has the power to immediately stop addictions and to face death with open arms (see Niki Lauda).
And if you don’t want to deal with depression by yourself you can always contact me to coach you on your way towards a better life!
PS: What do you think is the most useful tip inside this article to get rid of depression? Leave a comment and share this with other men that need your help!
About the Post Author
Philip Braselmann was born 1990 in Germany and suffered from depression for 12 years after being diagnosed with essential tremor. He slowly learned to cope with it and went the normal route that every man walks. After his girlfriend cheated he was depressed again and decided that he is going to live a good life. It took Philip another year to realize that masculinity was the answer to getting rid of his depression. He loves Modafinil, working out and building his Business.